I still remember how my baby brother used to get awfully frightened of loud music and how a childhood friend of mine started fearing death after her grandmother died. She was only 5 back then and I remember how she thought that everyone was going to perish under the dust, if not today then tomorrow. This fear of death started to take over her entire life. She would refuse to join us on trips where , according to her, threat to her life was imminent. Now she is 20 ,all safe and sound ; but all these years she never really lived and and spent her days cowering in some dark corner of her room just because of her over thinking. The strange reality of life is that all life events are pre planned. What is meant to happen will happen for sure then why waste time on thinking and fearing? Having fears is a common thing but we should not let them take over.
Almost every other person has some fears : fear of interacting with new people , fear of change , fear of losing what you own, etc. Many people consider their fears insignificant while to others they can be nerve-wracking and can ruin their entire lives. When fears take this next rigorous form they turn into PHOBIAS. Having phobias DOES NOT mean that a person is crazy because guess what, you can control them if you want to! People who are exceptionally talented and have remarkable potential can lose all of their golden chances because of mere stage fright. They will avoid and neglect all the opportunities because of their fear but when they look back at what could’ve been, they will only have heaps of regrets waiting for them. Similarly , if a person is afraid of the dark , he might start losing his sleep because of this fear and start depending on anti depressants and pills for some sound sleep. This will eventually affect his health.
I believe we become what we feed to our minds. We are first and foremost our own mentors but the important thing is what do we choose to teach ourselves.
If we choose to spend our time reading about immoral things, that is our teacher and we will be influenced by that. If we will focus on all the tragic and bitter realities , then they are our teacher. We will become depressed and hopeless because we are being programmed to be like this. We are easily influenced by what we see and read and hear.
Only those things affect us that are directly linked to our heart. We will remember a sad, funny or scary story better than a factual article. The media knows that and uses it well. Fear, in most cases, is what is used to control people but only few know that fear itself can be controlled.
Most of the fears are self created and are the results of overthinking. Why not think of the highest possibility of how it can effect you. We are all aware of the mini heart attacks we get when we fail to make it to the top ranking university . A lot of people quit their dream of going there and choose to live with the regrets for the rest of their life but the wise ones will overcome this fear of rejection by trying again . Worst case scenario: they wont be able to make it again but they wouldn’t have any regrets. Atleast they tried ; atleast they didn’t let their fear stop them from doing what they want to. Think deep of how this fear is being an obstacle in your normal life. How happy you would be if you overcome this fear ? Close your eyes , take a deep breath , say goodbye to your fear and welcome the opportunities in your life with a warm smile.
The more you practice, the better you will get. The key to all this is not giving up. The only thing you can and you have to control is your mind (in order to achieve a fearless life) as all the other things are controlled by Almighty. I am not saying that you will be able to jump off from K2 or sleep with seven giant squids in your room but you will be able to stop all these stories going on in your head just by a positive attitude towards your life. Be the boss of your own thoughts and give everything in your life a chance. Can it really be painful? Well it might be , but it will be for all the right reasons.